If you’re a well-dressed man, I’m positive that you’ve received a compliment for your great sense of style and impressive wardrobe at least once in your life. In fact, I’m also positive that you’ve either downgraded, rejected, or deflected a compliment at least once in your life as well. Unfortunately, I’ve witnessed people go about receiving a compliment the wrong way time and time again. Therefore, I created this simple guide on how to accept a compliment the right way.
1. Express Gratitude. When people receive a compliment, one of the most common things that they do is deflect and reject the compliment. For instance…
Compliment: “That’s a really nice tie you’re wearing!”
Response: “Oh, this old thing. I’ve had it for years but I hardly ever wear it”
Instead of deflecting the compliment, the best way to accept a compliment is to express your gratitude by simply saying thank you! When you downplay a compliment, you might think that you’re showing humility, but what you’re really doing is making the person who gave you the compliment feel uncomfortable and they will probably never compliment you again.
2. Avoid the Back and Forth. Sometimes when someone gives you a compliment, you might feel the need to shoot one right back to them in order to restore the balance. For instance…
Compliment: “That’s a dope suit!”
Response: “I’m just trying to be like you!”
I actually hear that response quite often whenever I give someone a compliment and it drives me crazy! Usually, people feel the need to do this because they don’t want to come off as being conceited. Instead, you should simply say thank you, enjoy the moment and be grateful for the kind words.
3. Follow-up. If a compliment is particularly special to you, don’t hesitate to follow up your “thank you” with an amplifier that tells the giver how you really feel, or why you appreciate it so much.
Compliment: “You look very nice today!”
Response: “Thanks, I was really feeling down today and that just made my day!”
Just make sure that you’re being genuine with the follow-up because it can easily come off as false modesty. However, by following up, the giver will be more prone to giving you more compliments in the future.
As always, thank you for reading!
The Dapper Advisor